There is a Difference Between Being Queer Affirming and Queer Knowledgeable...
Has Your Gender and/or Sexuality Caused You To Struggle With Your Mental Health?
Are you tired of "coming out" multiple times or maybe feel angry that you have to "come out" at all?
Does dysphoria cause challenges in creating and maintaining relationships with those around you?
Have you struggled to find a clinician who's not just simply queer affirming, but queer knowledgeable?
Do you find it difficult to live authentically within the hetero- and cis-normative frameworks that remain predominant in our society?
Perhaps you are struggling to feel seen and heard at work, by your family or by society at large. Or it could be that your family has responded to your coming out with intolerance or a lack of understanding. Maybe you haven’t yet come out at all, and you’re looking for support about how to do so. Or perhaps you have come out, but you’re wondering how to navigate the world of dating, workplace and family dynamics, or medical care. You might be grappling with a fear of rejection or a lack of vocabulary in connection with your identity, boundaries, and needs.
Our community experiences mental health challenges at higher-than-average rates. You may be struggling with anxiety, depression, unresolved trauma, or even suicidal thoughts. It could be that you feel the need to hide from or withdraw from others to protect yourself or have developed low self-esteem. Maybe as a way of coping, you engage in self-harmful or destructive behaviors, such as substance abuse, high-risk sexual behavior, disordered eating, or a need to please others at the expense of your mental health. You may be angry or scared just to be who you are.
All you want is to not only feel accepted—but embraced—by those around you. And though it may be initially difficult to navigate the world as an LGBTQIA+ person, counseling can offer valuable perspective and an avenue for self-compassion.
All Of Us Exist On A Continuum Of Gender And Sexuality
No matter who we are or how we identify, we all have a place on the gender and sexuality spectrum. Regardless of our identity or sexual preferences, we all “come out” as who we are in some way or another. But while labels can be very helpful for finding community and spreading awareness, they nevertheless create social constructs and categories that can make the process of coming out as LGBTQIA+ painful, confusing, and complicated.
Unfortunately, because we live in a hetero- and cis-normative society—meaning that we create cultural expectations around the ideal of the straight, white, cisgender male—it can be very difficult for us, especially those in male-dominated atmospheres, to veer from the norm. This cultural rigidity has likely made it hard for you to come out, adapt, and find resources as LGBTQIA+. But as a queer therapist, I can provide you with guidance and a pathway to healing.
Our team has years of experience and insight working with LGBTQIA+ clients. The therapeutic alliance is the most essential component of therapy - especially for queer folx - as it provides a space where you'll be given an opportunity to explore your self-image and develop skills for coping, emotional regulation, and self-care without feeling the need to explain anything about yourself or your culture.
We approach therapy from a strength-based and trauma-informed perspective. That means we know how to gently uncover painful parts of your past while building on your natural skills and abilities for resilience. In addition, many members of our team are trained in EMDR - a different type of therapy designed specifically to support you with overcoming trauma.
As you begin to find love for all parts of yourself, you will be better prepared to engage with others. Whether this means learning to communicate, set boundaries, or assert your needs, we will empower you to find your voice. Moreover, you will gain a deeper awareness of scenarios that cause you to feel unsafe.
It's time to start to love and care for yourself as much as you do for those around you. See which member of our team is best to fit your needs.