How to Navigate LGBTQ+ Discrimination in High School

High school can be tough for anyone — but for LGBTQ+ students, it can be particularly difficult and painful. While many schools are becoming more inclusive, discrimination still happens. Whether you’re being bullied, misgendered, or excluded, these experiences can take a toll on your mental health and sense of safety.

If you’re facing discrimination in high school because of your identity, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to face it without support. Here’s a guide to coping with these difficulties while finding strength in your identity.

Know That You’re Not the Problem

When someone is treated unfairly because of who they are, it’s easy to internalize that behavior and start wondering, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I be like everyone else?” But this thinking leads to internalized homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia. There is nothing wrong with you, your sexuality, and your gender identity.

Discrimination stems from ignorance, fear, and bias — not your existence. It’s important to separate the hate or misunderstanding you’re facing from your inner sense of self-worth. You deserve respect, safety, and acceptance just like anyone else.

Find Your Support System

Being around people who affirm your identity can make a world of difference. Look for allies — whether that’s a trusted teacher, a school counselor, a parent or family member, or a friend who truly sees and supports you. If your school has a Gender and Sexuality Alliance (GSA) or any LGBTQ+ support group, consider joining.

These spaces can offer community and safety and even help you advocate for yourself and others. If your school doesn’t have one, you might consider starting one with the help of a faculty advisor. You can also look for online communities when your local options are more limited.

Know Your Rights

In many places, students are legally protected from discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. You have the right to feel safe at school and to express your identity. For example, in the US, Title IX has been interpreted to include protections for LGBTQ+ students. That means schools have a responsibility to address harassment and discrimination.

If you’re being bullied or treated unfairly, report it to a school administrator or counselor. Keep a record of what happened, when, and who was involved. If your school doesn’t take your concerns seriously, you may be able to escalate the issue with the help of an advocacy organization like GLSEN, Lambda Legal, or the ACLU.

Speak Up (When It’s Safe)

Advocating for yourself or others can be empowering — but only when it feels safe to do so. If you feel comfortable, correcting someone who misgenders you or calling out homophobic jokes can send a strong message and educate others in the process.

If you’re worried about your safety, there are other ways to make your voice heard. Try starting a petition, writing for your school newspaper, or anonymously reporting issues to the administration.

Celebrate Your Identity

Despite these challenges, your identity is something to be proud of. Queer joy, resilience, and creativity are powerful things — they’ve carried every LGBTQ+ movement through every imaginable difficulty. Lean into what makes you you, whether that’s through fashion, music, writing, activism, or chosen family.

Reach Out for Your Mental Health

Experiencing discrimination can lead to anxiety, depression, or feelings of isolation. If you’re struggling, consider talking to a mental health professional who understands LGBTQ+ issues.

Many schools offer counseling services, but if that’s not an option (or not a safe space for you), contact LGBTQ+-friendly therapists in your area or online platforms that offer sliding-scale options. Reach out to us today — we can help you figure out the next four years and thrive beyond them.

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